Thursday, May 31, 2012

Quirks

First  off, thanks for all  the comments  on my previous post! It's fun to hear everyone else's thoughts on the topic of  family size :-)

And  I'm sorry, but  once  again today I'm too lazy to post pictures. The girls were at my mom's for much of today and I was slaving away on my Etsy shop orders....so that's my excuse. Also my dishwasher broke just the other  day and that's been pretty depressing---I'm staying busy dragging the girls out to eat for most meals until we get a new one installed LOL.

So  today I thought I would just share some of the "quirky" things  about  Miss Raya --- and  she *is* a quirky little  thing for sure!!! :-P

* Can't sleep with a hair rubberband in her hair. We must redo her  hair after  every nap.
* Hates tags. Most of her  clothes  anymore have the  tags cut out because  they "hurt"
* Gets  lots of "boo boos" ...and then obsesses about how they  will interfere with her daily activities, especially how she cannot take a bath and get her boo boo wet. Most  boo boos  are unseen by  the naked eye, but  she swears they are there.
* She requires that baby bop and one owl lovie  lay on her left side in bed, barney and the other owl lovie lay on her right.  She cannot have the sheet touch her body in any way---she's terrified  of it. Only the quilt and her owl blankey can cover her (and her entire body and face must be  covered because of "monsters")
* Nothing in her room can be changed or she won't sleep. If you try to set a new toy on her shelf or floor that isn't normally in her  room, she was insist it be removed from the room.
* She  hates Lee or I laying in her bed. This is a big no no.
* After her bath you must dry her off and then she wraps up in her towl, carries her pjs to the living room, announces her arrival, and then I must  dress her. If Lee tries to dress her or if I  try to dress her in any area other than the living room she screams bloody murder.
* She doesn't like wind blowing her hair. She wears a hat to "protect" her
* She  will not get out of her bed until someone comes to tell her it's ok.
* She is terrified of bugs, including flies. Many dinners have been ruined due to a fly within her  range  of sight.

....there are about 1000 other  quirky things she does, but  that's what  I thought of off the top of my head! LOL

Ya just  gotta love her :-P



So what  quirky things  do *your* kid(s) do? Mine isn't the  only  one with issues hopefully!!! ;-)

Wednesday, May 30, 2012

BIG announcement!!

I  wasn't sure  when I was going  to make this  news "blog official" haha, but  I have no new  pictures today so I figured today was as good as any :-)  And no, it's not  what  you're all thinking!!! Actually, quite the opposite.

We've decided to be a "two and through" family--no more babies for me!

We  look too  cute  as it  is :-)



Yes, it's actually somewhat  surprising to me too LOL. I  know that  the size of your family  is a very personal decision for everyone, and no two people are going to make the  decision the same way, but I've been thinking about this 24-7 for months now and I  thought it  might help people to hear how I made my own decision--so on to the rambling hehe. (Be  warned, it's a long post!)

Before  I  had  kids  I imagined having 4 of my own. I  have always loved  kids and just  thought a large  family  sounded fun! But  then I  met  Lee  and he wanted only  two. I  thought that  sounded horribly small so we settled  on three.

After having Raya  I  realized that  4  sounded like quite  a chore! ...and I was  quite  happy with our decision to have 3. Lee still  wasn't  sure  about  3 and every time we'd be dealing  with a fussy baby he'd say "and  you want *3* of these?!"....but I was  still sure!

Then we had  Brielle 19 months later.  I  always envisioned us with kids  close together  in age, for many  reasons. And although it was a ton of work, I'm still extremely glad  that Raya and Brielle are 19 months apart.

And then Brielle hit 1 year old in January.  And  since we had  gotten pregnant with  Brielle when Raya was about 11 months old Brielle's  first birthday  signaled that  it was about time for baby #3. But every time I thought  about having another it  just  did not  sound  like fun at all. I  told myself "just  get it  over with" and  then it'll be fine. For a couple  months we  went  back and forth, various things changed our  mind from one minute to the next, and I was completely unsure.  Then about  a month  ago it just  hit me. I  don't want another baby.  Ever.

I never  would have  guessed this  about myself 3 years ago. But I think  that this is  something that often  just hits you--and  you *know*.

I will  say, we  are not to the point to do anything permanant. If  something horrible happened (death, divorce, etc.) I  wouldn't want either of us to be of child bearing  age, but not  have  the option to have more kids. And although I feel  about 99% sure I am completely happy  with 2 kids, there's always that  slim chance  that I'll  change  my mind I guess....and I'm only  30  so I  technically still  have a few child  bearing years left lol. A woman always reserves the right  to change her  mind!!! (But  I'm sure  enough to start selling  off my baby gear and  clothes--so  that  says  a lot :-)

Ok, so now  here are my top reasons for excitedly ending with  2 munchkins :

1) I don't  want to be pregnant again. I  know there are people who love  being pregnant---and great for you (I  hate  you all by the way :-) ....but  I am definitely not  one of them.  I  am sick/puking for the first 18-20weeks and even after I start to feel  better I  still obsessively worry the entire  pregnancy. I can never relax and I find pregnancy very stressful. I  am not  at all  sad  by the  thought  of never  being pregnant  again.  I  will not miss it.

2) I'm  "over" the baby  stage. Now first  let  me say that I  LOVED my babies.  I  love baby snuggles, I love dressing up babies, taking their pictures, seeing them  learn  new  stuff, etc. But  I  never had what  I'd call  an "easy" baby. Mine tend to be a little  high maintanance. And when I think about the baby stage I  do wish  that  I could go back  and  have *one day* here and there with my babies....one day  of cuddles and snuggles :-) But I'm not  new to this  game. I  know how you spend 90% of your  time with babies. In my memories the  cute cuddly  baby snuggles  are often overshadowed by diaper blowouts, sleepless nights (mine never slept through  the night until 6-8 months!), constantly sitting (for hours and  hours) on the couch  breastfeeding, not being able to leave  the house because  it was a constant struggle  planning around  naps and feedings, etc.  I don't  miss any of that. And while I could devote all  of my time to those  baby needs with  my first, by the time I had Brielle they all seemed more annoying and  inconvienent because  it got in the way of what  I wanted  to do with Raya.

I  know I will miss not having another baby. But I  don't  miss the  work that comes  with them---and I know that no matter  how  many  babies  I have I  will  always be sad to see the last  one grow up. It wouldn't matter if  I had two or ten....it's always a little sad to close  the book  on an era so to speak. But  bye bye nursing and sleepless  nights and carrying that stupid  little carseat around that  I  swear to god weighs 50 lbs :-P

3) I  don't  want  a boy. And I know I joke  about  boy  clothes and  toys being boring, but that's all  in good  fun :-) I love my nephews, I think little boys are sweet. If I  ever had a boy  I  know I'd 100% love  him to death. But that  said, I  have two girls. I think once  you have one gender (two of the same gender  especially) it's just overwhelming to start over with something new. I don't want  to buy boy  toys, I don't  want to buy boy  clothes, I don't want  to plan vacations and family activities around what girls *and* boys want to do.....our life is perfectly set up for little girls and I like it that way.  I don't long for  a boy and when I think about having one I  just  feel  like it would mess up our family  dynamic. Plus,  I'd have  to change the name  of my blog---which is totally a valid reason for not wanting  a boy hehe.

Don't  get me wrong, I know that no matter what  you have--1 kid, 5 kids---all boys, all  girls, some of each---you will  *always* say you love  it and can't  imagine  your  life any differently. That's just  how  it  goes :-) So if tomorrow I found  out I was having  triplets, having a boy, etc. I  don't think my life would be over  haha---I'm  just  saying that I honestly  like  our family dynamic the way  it is. When you see perfection you just know  it---and why try to improve on perfection? :-P

4) Finances. We are blessed that  we can afford more  children. I know we can feed, clothe, and care for more.  But  certainly the  more  kids  you have the  more  expensive things get.  Prom dresses? Weddings? College? ....We'll be able to give  our girls *more* now  with only  two than we would if  we had  three. Would my girls be traumatized if I  could only  buy a $50 prom dress instead of a $100 one? No. Will I  enjoy being able to give them lots of "extras" ? Yes.

5) 4 is the magic  number.  Much of the world  just  seems built  for a family of 4. Seating at a restaraunt.....hotel rooms....cars...etc. A lot of things are just  a little bit  easier for a family of 4. (But i'm not giving up my  van just  yet---Love those  automatic doors no matter how  many  kids I have! :-)

6) Medical  Thankfully I don't have  it bad like  many people with  rhuematoid arthritis.  I  could  have another if I wanted. *But*, my symptoms have not gotten under control very easily  since  having  Brielle. At some point  I  just  think my body wants  to be done with carrying babies around, lugging baby stuff, etc. Plus, arthritis is a lifelong condition.  Most  likely it  will  continuously  get worse with  age. As it is now I  will  be about 47 years  old  when Brielle graduates high school. I  like the idea of being in my  40s when the babies  leave  the nest--still young enough to enjoy some empty nest years---especially  since  I don't predict I'll  be  one  of those  70 year olds still  frolicking around without a care  haha. I'll  probably be  a 70 year old with knee replacements and a walker :-/

7) Work I've  never had  any  intention of being a SAHM forever. I  would love  to go  to work part time  and do Etsy the  other  part  of the time. We'll  see how that all  plays out. But  the fact is that  my license needs to be renewed in about 2ish  years...I'll  need to take some classes/credit hours and  such and I can't  say that doing all  of that with a new baby at home sounds fun.  But  letting  my license expire, even if I don't  go back  to school  psychology, doesn't  sound smart either.

8) A  big  age  gap is not  for me. I  realize many people love larger age gaps.  It's just  not  for me. I  like the  idea of taking my girls to Disneyworld soon for instance. If we have a 3rd , even if we have one fairly  soon, there would be about 5 years  between Raya and the baby.  If I waited  a couple years to get pregnant there'd be even longer. With that  sort of age gap I just think it'll be harder  to plan vacations and activities that all the  kids enjoy.

9) I  want our house back.  I'm so excited to  sell  baby gear and clothes and get  it the heck  out of our house! :-)

10) I want  my "me" time back!  Once again I in no way  regret the kids I have.  I loved everything about them and their  "babyness" and  if I  didn't  have  any  kids right  now I'd be so excited for everything that I just  wrote about being  sick  of. I  looked forward to sleepless  nights and diapers and baby gear! But  like I said, everyone I think hits a point where they've  been there, done that....and now I'm excited for the next stage of our  life! Planning vacations like camping  trips and  boating, doing ballet classes and school and homework! ....having girl  time and getting nails  done....sleeping  in because I can tell  the girls  to go watch tv until  I'm ready to get up :-) ....running errands in half the time because they  can hop into  their own seats and buckle up.

...and  I"m no Michelle Duggar. I'm  sorry, but  how do people with huge  families do it?! When  I'm helping  Raya on the potty and turn around to see Brielle emptying the bathroom drawers of every.  single.  item. it simply  drives me crazy! lol.  Needless  to say I don't respond with "oh honey, now let's discuss  why that  was wrong and correct our  error in judgment by  carefully refolding the 50 washclothes mommy just spent  all morning washing." ...instead I can usually be  heard saying "Brielle!!! Get the heck  out of my drawer!!!!!!!!!!!!! Raya, hurry and a pee before your sister destroys the  house!  Oh god, I need a nap"  :-P


So I  appologize  for the long ramble, but  I wanted  to  document this  for the girls on the  blog (since  it's  their  baby book) and they will be able to see my reasoning for the decision---and also maybe help others who are struggling with the decision of how  many  kids to have themselves.

Any other  "two  and  through" readers out there?   ...and I will  still  be ooohing and ahhhing over all  the new babies as they fill  up my  blog list and facebook  page with announcements and cute baby pictures---don't worry! But just  know that I'm thinking "awww,  he/she is simply adorable! But  I'm glad it's *you* who's  taking him home and  not me"  :-)


Oh,  and wondering  what Lee thinks of all  this? Well,  he was surprised when I suddenly agreed with him on the 2 kids thing---I think he was sort of holding out that maybe he'd still  get a boy---but he was happy to "blame" me for the 3 kids when they'd all  be crazy and crying, or if  he got a 3rd girl haha. So I did tell him that if he really  really wanted a 3rd I would be open to it, but  he didn't haha. I think  if someone presented him with a boy  he'd probably accept, but he doesn't  want t he work of a 3rd child. (And if someone presented me with a 2 year old girl then *I * would probably accept..neither scenario is  likely  to happen!)

And now that I've made this  decision I"m certainly  going  to find out I'm expecting a "surprise" baby  next week or something LOL.

Tuesday, May 29, 2012

Splash Pad 2012

One  of the things  we had looked  forward to after moving back  home was that the  town near us has tons of splash pads (free)...our old house had nothing nearby like this, and it's  so nice to have something f ree when your kids are this age because they don't last  an entire afternoon. Plus,  I don't have  to watch them as closely at a splash pad, compared to a regular pool---win win!

So  today we took  our first trip of the year  to the splash pad. This one is our current favorite because there  is also a nice  park and geese/ducks to  feed :-) It was a little windy today so the water felt cold, but the girls  didn't  seem to mind too much! We had a wonderful day eating out lunch, playing at the park, splashing to our hearts content, and topping it all off with a trip to Cold Stone for icecream  (did you know Tuesdays are buy one get one free for kids icecream?! Both girls got their  own bowl with one topping for $2 total---score. I  think Tuesday  we will  be going to Cold Stone more often!)

Enjoy our  pictures! (I still  haven't  figured out how to take pictures  in the super bright sun--ugh--bare with me :-P)

Both were unsure at first

Then Raya became quite concerned...bless  her heart she tried to "save sissy" hehe

Run sissy!

She is the sweetest big  sister, always holding Brielle's  hand



My new favorite thing are the pictures where the  girls' personalities show so very clearly.  Here for instance, when Raya is practically shaking with fear, while  Brielle is walking towards the  geese ready to give them hugs! :-)

On to the park!


Helping sissy up the hill !





They loved the  tire swing

Her "uh oh" face lol



Very sunny!


Now on to the splash pad! When Raya saw the  splash pad she let out  a squeal of delight like nothing I've ever heard before LOL...she was so excited!
















LOVE this one :-)









Heading to the car to dry off!


"I had  fun today Mama!"  (She has been saying that  a lot lately haha. At least she's appreciative :-)





Hope you all had  a wonderful Tuesday as well! :-)