For our family, I consider myself to be very laid back. I do *not* pick battles over things that many other people do. I have never really done schedules ....I've tried from time to time but it never really sticks. I also don't pick the TV battle. I watch a lot of tv, so does Lee, and I sort of figure it comes with the territory that the girls do too. I feel i was pretty successful in life and didn't suffer too much brain rot, so I'm not overly concerned about the girls either ;-) Another battle I choose not to pick is picking up toys. Frankly, it's way easier for me to do it anyways. I do have them help some, but when I see them distracted and off doing something else in the middle of clean up time I just let it go.
There are probably about 1 million other battles I don't pick....these are the ones I can think of off the top of my head :-P
BUT, over the last week I've picked two battles....and every parent also knows that when you decide to pick a battle, you better win! The first battle I picked is manners. Raya had gotten into the bad habit of demanding things "turn on my show. I want a snack. Get my blanket." .....and then if I'd comment on being rude she'd say "pleeeeeeeeeeeease"....and thought that solved it. But it was really getting on my nerves so I picked a battle....and now she *must* say "may I please have....." or "would you please get...." etc. And then after I do she must say "thanks". If she doesn't do this then I ignore her or say "I don't hear you" and that cues her to remember the magic wording ;-)
The second battle I've decided to pick is FOOD. Now first, everyone who knows me knows that I couldn't care less about health food. I don't do organic, I don't subsitute weird seeds and oats in my food, I don't make strange smoothie concoctions, etc. Frankly, I think there are probably about 10,000 other ways I'm going to die that have nothing to do with artificial sweetners and corn syrups LOL....so I don't care.
But what *does* drive me crazy is that the girls had slowly gotten to the point that they were eating NO VARIETY! I mean, the same 4 food items over and over again. And a couple of those (yogurt and applesauce) are healthy in my book....but still, the lack of variety and opposition to trying new things was killing me! So I put my foot down. We now have *at least* 4 different items for every meal. One can be a "love it" item (like Raya's beloved grilled cheese or granola bar, etc.) and then one can be a healthy item that they like (such as yogurt)....but then the other two+ things must be items they normally refuse to eat. And they must eat at a least a few bites! Today for instance we did mandarin oranges and green beans for there new items (which I've offered many times before, but haven't forced them to eat haha).
|Raya stuck with the go-to mac n cheese lol|
|Brielle stuck with her favorite--peach yogurt!|
We had tantrums for about 2 days, and then since then Miss Raya has been doing great! The girl loves her dessert haha (today it was a pudding cup :-)
|Cleaned her plate!|
This system has been harder for Brielle to learn because she can't understand the idea of bribery (getting seconds/dessert) so I'm walking a fine line with her because I have to give the illusion of enforcing the rules with Brielle or Raya will cry foul haha. So Brielle didn't get dessert today because she turned her nose up at green beans and oranges!
Hopefully Brielle catches on soon :-)
So, which battles do you guys choose to pick, and which do you let slide?!