Newborn-1month (The calm before the storm)
So yes, you are sleep deprived, but in general I think the first few weeks are kind of a honeymoon period when you have kids. For one, you are still on that new mom high---you know how before baby comes you sit in the nursery so excited and think about how you won't be annoyed getting up at night because you'll love them so much blah blah blah? Yeah, that high carries you through ---and also baby is still in that sleepy drunk stage where are long as they are fed and changed you can kind of coast through....you start thinking "hey, this motherhood stuff is not nearly as bad as people make it sound!"
(And yes, I'll accompany this all with some pictures :-)
Raya as a newborn:
|Still sleepy and new :-)|
1month-3months --- The dark ages
This is my very least favorite age that I've experienced thus far. Now certainly you may have the occassional parent who lucks out with an extremely easy going baby, but in general I think this age kinda sucks lol. It's all work and no play! Baby tends to be fussy and needy---if it's your first baby and you are OK with letting the house go to hell you make it through by feeding and holding baby constantly. Baby is too little to play or do much so it's a very boring time as well. You don't want to leave the house because baby could have a meltdown at any time. Thankfully babies this age continue to be cute, or else mine probably would have ended up on craigslist ;-)
Here is Raya, doing a lot of crying at this age
|I always thought around 6 weeks was the absolute worst!|
4-6 months-- The light at the end of the tunnel
You start to think you might not eat your young after all! haha. Baby starts to play with some toys and get on a better schedule. You start to leave the house again.
We will let baby Finn illustrate this period
6-12 months (or whenever baby starts walking) -- The heavens have parted and the angels sing! :-)
This is my FAVORITE age that I've experienced so far. Baby can sit on his/her own and play with toys, they tend to be content and happy much of the day, take at least 2 good naps, are happy to sit in a highchair or stroller with some puffs and rattles....FYI, take lots of vacations and eat out a lot during this time!!!!!!!!!!! haha. This is also the best age for pictures---baby can't get away from you, is cute and chubby and happy....man, if you could keep kids at this very specific age forever I'd have more ;-) And this is also probably why I got pregnant with Brielle when Raya was 11 months....because during this time you are feeling so great about your great baby that you think you might want another!
Here are some pics of Raya during this age (I felt like going back in time farther than Brielle to pull out some old pictures :-)
1 year --- The terrible twos come early!
The terrible twos are one of the biggest parenting myths I've ever encountered....because the 1's are so much worse! At this age baby can walk and get into EVERYTHING. He/she probably can't talk a whole lot or reason very well---so tantrums are plentiful and bribing is impossible. They no longer will sit in a highchair or stroller so once again plan to lock yourself in at home---going out will not be fun anymore! As always, cuteness is really their only saving grace ;-) At this point if you, like me, got pregnant during the "angels are singing" period, you are now probably thinking to yourself "oh shit, what have I done?" haha
2 years -- The twos aren't so terrible!
By two things have calmed down again some---you are probably about potty trained during this year, which tends to be a nice change. Your kid has better language and reasoning skills so you can talk out issues helping to eliminate some of the more stupid tantums of the 1's. You can also start using bribery, a personal parenting favorite of mine ;-) Your kid is showing interest in activities so family trips to the zoo, pool, etc. are becoming more frequent. All in all I really don't mind the 2's all that much! If you missed your earlier "angles are singing" window, you may start considering another baby during this year....you're starting to feel good about your parenting again haha.
Since Brielle isn't 2 yet, here's Raya :-)
3 &4 years -- The bipolar years
Obviously the oldest I've experienced personally is 3, but I have a pretty good handle on 4 from Mr. Sawyer as well as my years of nannying and babysitting experience. These years you swing from one day of pure bliss to one day of pure hell---hence the bipolar years ;-) You have the benefit of incredibly language skills, which makes your life easier in many ways. But with it comes lots of attitude and the smarts to be defiant and stubborn. I love this age because it's like you get to hang out with a real person, and they can be so fun and FUNNY! But then in the next second I see glimpses into the teen years and I want to crawl in a hole and hide lol.
5-9-- the Elementary School Years
Of course now I'm predicting, but I do have tons of experience with this age so I am fairly confident in my prediction that this will be my most favorite age of all! I love this age, especially for girls (what I happened to have a couple of ;-) ....this age has it's fair share of arguing and such of course, but in general kids this age still love their parents and think they are pretty cool---little girls this age love crafts and you get to do all the fun school stuff. YOu get to do dance and Girl Scouts, or whatever they are interested in---before things get insanely clicky and competitive. This is the best age for taking lots of fun family trips before everyone starts getting involved in their own stuff or thinking it's not cool anymore. I'm so looking forward to this age!
10-12 -- The tween years
I'm on the fence for this age....I hate all the mean girls stuff that is starting to take place now---the attitude is back to bipolar. But yet depending on the kid they still often like doing stuff with their parents and can be really fun at times too.
13-18 ---The teen years
This is also known as the "you're going to live with Grandma" period lol ;-) I am not looking forward to this age---especially with girls. The drama, the eye rolling, the boy/girl sagas, the bathroom time, etc....if I can make it through these years without jail or pregnancy I'll be happy haha. (As much as I enjoy a little Teen Mom on MTV, I don't have any desire to star on that show :-P)
So what do you all think---agree or disagree?